I got separated years ago because my husband was always drunk and was always hurting me and my three kids. After we separated, he took one of our kids, the other two are being taken care of by my sister because I am not very financially capable and as a single mom, I am working so hard for them. He does not support our needs. Things are very difficult for me, I need advice.
My response :
I think you married a stranger. If you dated well, if you knew him well, if you listened well, if you were truthful to yourself then, if you really loved yourself then, you might have avoided this. Nevertheless, the did is already done.
Also, I will like to consider him from this angle. Was he like this before you married him? If he wasn't, think if there was an incident that made him become like this. Like ask yourself, why did he become this way? Maybe he needs help. Maybe he has a weak heart and opted to drinking to forget stuffs. If this is the case, then he needs counseling and more love, but these will be possible if he is compliant. If this is the case and he is still single and wants you back, then try to work things out. The both of you should figure out his problem and think of how to solve it. If it's psychological, get him an expert. If it is financial, work things together. You should particularly get something doing. If you are not educated, try and learn a skill that will give you money. I think you can both work things out because two years is enough for him to discover himself.
Most importantly, if what I wrote in the second paragraph is not the case, try and acquire more self developmental skills. Learn something that will give you money or look for a better work. If what you are doing is not enough, look for something else. Don't depend on any man, and be very open to love, don't shut your heart. Work to establish yourself, with time, you will get a better man for yourself. Thank you.
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