CAESAR'S CIRCUIT

Please Caesar, I need your advise. 

My girlfriend whom I have been with for up to a year now, suddenly started acting strangely. She told me she needs a break, that I distract her from her studies, this angered me and I slapped her twice, she left my house. I started calling her and even apologised severally, but she wouldn't listen or accept my apologies. Please Caesar, I need your help.

My Response:

Thanks for sharing your love problem with us. Firstly, I will like to condemn something from your own angle. You said you slapped her, not once, but twice. You shouldn't have. Behaviors like this could be why she wanted a break from you, maybe you are too possessive. 

Now, let's view this from two sides. If she said she needs a break, maybe she found someone else or maybe what she is complaining of is actually true, maybe you are a distraction. So, I must ask this, how do you contribute in promoting her studies? Do you always put yourself first or her education and wellbeing first? 

I am not saying you should contribute financially, but a good boyfriend who is in a relationship with a student should always from time to time pay interest to her studies too, monitor how she reads, monitor how serious she is with her studeis, monitor how often she goes to school, etc. Maybe your relationship deviates her from her studies and she wants to stay off from it. 

A reasonable lady, a lady that has a good aim for the future has every right to stay away from any relationship that will deter her goals. I think you need to sit up, either in this relationship or maybe in your next relationship. 

Now, stop the callings, go to her and apologise. Apologise for slapping her and promise never to do it again. sometimes, discussing with someone physically often have more effect than discussing on phone. Phone calls may not be able to convey your real emotions. 

Be a better man. If she accepts you back, please, always place her wellbeing and interest first, it shouldn't always be about you.