CAESAR'S CIRCUIT

Hello Caesar, I am writing because of my friend. She had been married with kids, but doesn't stay with her husband because of the nature of his job. They don't stay in the same state. Her problem is that he doesn't call at all, unless she calls him first, or flashes him, then he will call back. She is tired of this his attitude, and wish he could call her on his own without her calling first. She is considering complaining to his friend so he could talk to him about it. Please, I will like to hear your opinion about it.

My response:
I think I have said this some years back, I will say it again in quote, ''don't expect everything others expect in their relationships, in your own relationship''. Some adequecies in your relationship are some deficiencies in that of others. While some of their adequecies are deficiencies in yours. She has been living with this man for years and knows what works for them. What works for them may not work for others. She should stop comparing her marriage with that of others. Okay, has she discussed about it with him? If she has, and he is yet to change, and she really wants him so badly to start initiating some of the calls, she should stop calling him. He will call when she stops. Nevertheless, she should try and know what works well for her marriage. She shouldn't push too hard on him, some men are not romantic, they only follow the lead you give them. 

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